Do you ever blame everyone but yourself for the problems in your life? If so, stop! Only losers do that. And if you’re reading my blog there’s a good chance you’re striving to be what I call a 2%er—one of the small percentage of people who actually GET what I’m about to tell you.

Listen, the moment I decided never to blame anybody else for my problems, my life got better, much better. And it happened just as suddenly as I made that decision. I simply decided to own every choice I made from that day forward.

You can change your life, too, just by making the decision to be accountable for everything…starting today. Your failures. Your successes. I mean everything.

And, if someone else is trying to suck out every last bit of your passion and inject subtle negativity into your life, stop it right now. They will kill everything you’ve worked hard for. If you’re making excuses for all your problems, you need to jumpstart your winning attitude right now.

First, be honest with yourself. Are you a winner or a whiner? The only way to make positive changes in your life is to acknowledge what’s real.

Here are five ways you can distinguish a loser from a 2%er.

1. Losers say the word “maybe” more than “yes.” This allows losers to create loopholes to back out of any formal agreement or commitment to anyone.

2. Losers talk more than they listen. For every insecure person I know, the common denominator is that he or she talks much more than they listen.

3. Losers use the word “but” after anything positive and normally follow that with a negative statement. This is common with losers. Just when something positive or uplifting comes out of their mouths, it’s followed up with a negative statement that devalues the breakthrough that could have happened if they would have truly believed the value of following their hearts.

4. Losers never take personal responsibility for anything. It’s normally someone else’s fault for whatever goes wrong in their lives. This is the most common trait I see in losers. Believe me, in my eight years in the Air Force I worked with more whiners, blamers, and complainers than you could possibly imagine.

I think that’s why most entrepreneurs need to exit their jobs quickly. It’s so draining to work in negative environments with negative people. It takes so much self-talk on the drive home to get your mind back to a winner’s perspective that it becomes hard to even show up at the job anymore.

5. Losers are great liars. It’s so hard to catch them blatantly but you just feel it. Sometimes you won’t even be able to tell this person apart from a winner for a year or two. That’s because they don’t often have the first four traits I mentioned beforehand. And losers are so good at telling little lies that they actually believe their own stories. I’ve been duped before. These people are tricky, so you really have to pay attention.

Now, let me wrap this up by clarifying the two types of losers you’re likely to come into contact with in your life.

The first type doesn’t know he’s a loser yet. Maybe he has crappy parents, crappy friends, etc. Of course, you can’t choose your parents but you can choose your friends. But that’s beside the point. The point is that this person needs YOUR help. He can succeed with a mentor or a friend who cares about him and guides him. To be honest, 99% of the time this person just needs some encouragement and love to thrive.

The real problem is the second type of loser. These people simply don’t care. They know they make stupid decisions. They know they make excuses. They do things like blame the “economy” because they’re broke, blame their bosses because they don’t get paid well, etc. These people just don’t care.

The sad part is that they’ll most likely be a loser for the rest of their lives because they’ll never take personal responsibility for anything. Since they’ll never recognize their true potential, all we can do is pray for them because God their only hope.

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